When giving is enough

Book: Diye Pugchha (A motivational book) by Rohit Bhandari. Published by Jaykali Prakashan Griha Pvt. Ltd. Page: 176. Price: Rs. 450. ISBN: 978-9937-1-8226-3

 

What we observe in our society is often a relentless pursuit of wealth and personal success, sometimes even at the expense of the well-being and achievements of others. As society appears to be drifting towards a state of detached individualism, genuine human connection has frequently been overshadowed by self-interest and corruption. Sadly, this trend has also affected Nepali society, which is renowned for its close-knit communities and deeply ingrained values of compassion and hospitality.

Faced with a struggling economy and escalating living costs, people are finding it increasingly difficult to cope. In their struggle for survival, cherished bonds of social unity are gradually weakening under the pressure of material desires and a 'me first' mentality. A sense of pessimism is prevalent, particularly among the youth who, disillusioned by corruption, unemployment, and inequality, are losing faith in the possibility of collective progress.

Yet, even amidst this growing gloom, there are inspiring glimmers of hope – ordinary individuals undertaking extraordinary acts, with some demonstrating such profound dedication to society and their fellow citizens that it is truly remarkable. Though perhaps few in number, we encounter social pioneers and remarkably selfless individuals who are choosing compassion over convenience and service over self-interest. They are rekindling hope for humanity and a better society around us. At least, all is not lost.

Journalist and author Rohit Bhandari has documented the stories of several such heroes in his book, 'Diye Pugchha' (It's Enough to Give). The life stories recounted in this book serve as powerful testaments to the fact that one does not need immense wealth to make a significant difference; what is truly essential is a heart 'big enough' to give. Moreover, the act of giving extends far beyond monetary donations. For instance, Simal Rai, a taxi driver, and Chandra Bahadur Kshetri, a bus conductor, both returned jewellery worth hundreds of thousands of Nepalese rupees to unknown passengers.

Bhandari has artfully created a collection by interweaving the distinct narratives of individuals from Nepali society. Astonishingly, these individuals were not born into privilege. Instead, they were people who persevered through hardship, experienced life's lowest points, rediscovered their motivation and strength to serve others, and channelled their resources and efforts to benefit those in desperate need.

The book opens with the poignant story of Bishnu and Laxmi Gautam, who tragically lost their two sons in separate accidents, both in Nepal and abroad. Despite their own profound grief, they resolved to serve others in need, establishing a school in Chitwan, constructing homes for those affected by the earthquake in Sipaghat, and conducting adult education programmes in various locations. The school they supported in Kanda, Chitwan, now boasts excellent hostel facilities as well.

Another compelling individual featured in the book is Binaya Jung Basnet from Lalitpur, who has performed the last rites for over 6,000 unclaimed deceased individuals. Once struggling with alcoholism and having lost all hope, Basnet has now found purpose in his life and leads a fulfilling existence with his wife and daughter, who frequently pays her respects to the unclaimed bodies for whom her father performed the final rituals.

Similarly, Shree Neha Pokhrel dedicates her life to caring for individuals with mental challenges. While this responsibility typically falls upon the families of the individuals or the state, this young woman has found profound fulfilment in serving those who, in many cases, barely recognise her. Shree Neha began her charitable work while still a student in class 10.

The story of Til Bahadur is deeply moving. He ran away from home at a young age simply because his feet were turned inwards, and he found no acceptance among his peers in his village and school. He quietly climbed onto the roof of a bus from Jhapa and hid there until it reached Kathmandu. Later in life, Til Bahadur established a home for children who had lost their families in disasters and accidents.

Likewise, Durganath Dahal's dedication to sick animals and people in need, Nirmala Poudel's support for individuals living with HIV, Sabita's school for children with autism, and Dayaram Sir's commitment to teaching visually impaired and non-verbal individuals are other highly inspiring stories. All these narratives deeply resonate with the readers. What makes this collection particularly powerful is that each story begins with heartbreaking circumstances and culminates in acts of selfless service that are sure to bring a smile to your face. In many instances, the author also shares his personal experiences of meeting these individuals and learning about their struggles and triumphs.

The book itself begins with a deeply personal and affecting account from the author. In this introductory chapter, Bhandari recounts a devastating fire that his sister barely survived and his mother's battle with cancer, which ultimately claimed her life. These traumatic events left him deeply disturbed for an extended period, hindering the completion of the book for several years. Finally, after a decade, he was able to bring it to its conclusion.

This book is undoubtedly worth reading and owning. The writing style reflects the author's background in journalism, employing a clear and direct reporting approach. It has the power to rekindle hope in your hearts and will certainly force you to rethink about your thinking about the humankind and society. If it nudges you to take a small step to the direction the book intends to, it would be service to you and the society at the same time.

Nepal's socio-economic challenges are significant and pressing. However, if the spirit of humanity can still manifest itself through acts of service, then hope remains. We must not allow the clamour of greed to drown out the quiet voices of compassion. Now, more than ever, we need to recognise, support, and draw inspiration from those who serve, not for personal gain, but for the well-being of others. In their actions lies the true strength of a nation – and this is the ultimate message of the book.

 

Published in The Rising Nepal daily on 10 September 2025.